“It’s frustrating, but it keeps you glued in,” she continues. Dardashti, and guess what? There’s no shortage of in "Fifty Shades." “For many women, foreplay is the most exciting part of sex,” says Dr.
We’ll get to the actual sex scenes in two more reasons, but first let’s talk about what comes before that: the foreplay. The sexual tension between Grey and Steele And just as you can’t get enough of your partner, you can’t enough of reading about it. “It’s the feeling like you can’t get enough of that person,” suggests Dr. We’re right there with her as she goes through all those fun, tingly emotions, and we get to enjoy falling in love for the first time all over again.Įspecially for readers who are in long-term relationships or might feel stuck in a routine, "Fifty Shades" was a way to re-live those initial stages of falling in love for the first time.Įven if you are single, you get to experience what it’s like to lose yourself in someone who loves you back. It revives those feelings we’ve had with our first loveĬhristian Grey is Anastasia Steele’s first love. Reading about this fantasy-man-played-out-in-real-life is engaging, an uncommon occurrence we secretly want to encounter. He’s not waiting an entire day to respond to a text or plan a date, like we’re so used to. Dardashti.įor instance, especially in the early stages of her relationship with Grey, Anastasia never questions his feelings. Men in the movies are based off an almost-impossible mix of qualities, which are also all the characteristics that most women would appreciate in a man, explains Dr. There’s a reason romantic books and movies are written about This Guy - he doesn’t exist in real life. “You don’t have this guy who is so attune to your feelings, incredibly sensitive but also super masculine.”
“It’s a combination of things that usually are not there, which makes it so alluring” offers Dr. Whether you actually like Christian or not, you can’t deny that his combination of thoughtfulness and masculinity sounds wildly attractive.
We’ve never met a real-life guy who possesses all of Grey’s qualities Dardashti explores what facets of "Fifty Shades" that women are connecting to, fantasizing about and wanting more of in their own lives (which in turn, has made this piece of fiction so popular) and the underlying implications of those desires.īecause it can’t just be because Christian Grey uses tampons as a foreplay, here is the science behind why women are so obsessed with “Fifty Shades of Grey.” 1. In her book, “ Fifty Shades of Women’s Desires: The Allure of Twilight, Fifty Shades, And Other Pop Culture Phenomena” Dr. Niloo Dardashti to get the real insight as to why we’re all wetting our pants (literally and figuratively) over a romance novel. We spoke to NYC psychologist and relationship coach Dr. I must be the color of 'The Communist Manifesto.'" If it’s not the quality of writing and it’s not the novelty of the storyline, then what the f*ck is it about "Fifty Shades" that makes us so cultish-ly obsessed? Sure, the sex scenes were pretty satisfying, but they were definitely not enough to stomach lines like, “My inner goddess is doing the merengue with some salsa moves” and “I feel the color in my cheeks rising again. And yet, everyone from your teenage sister to your grandmother confessed to being so hooked, she finished the entire trilogy in record time. It followed a very basic plotline, reused cheesy language, and was a third-grade reading level equivalent. “Fifty Shades of Grey” was certainly no literary masterpiece.
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